Everyday Knowing Reminder - Sunday Message August 22, 2010

Choices and Impact

My husband and I have been struggling with teaching our son that he is responsible for his actions and his feelings versus how his actions (choices) may impact others. It is a fine line to explain to an almost eight year old that when people choose an action which we may not like, that we have the ability to choose our response. We have the choice to decide how we feel and how we respond. Yet, his dad and I also would like him to understand that his actions do have an impact on other people and bring about consequences. In addition, we are helping him discover what he can do when he is impacted by someone’s choice and how he can respond. While writing the message this week, I was searching for an answer to this question. I was reading Fillmore’s book Talks on Truth. As I continued reading, I found I was having a difficult time concentrating. After a while I found that I was having an internal conversation. I heard the answer I needed. As Fillmore refers to in his book, I was focusing in the wrong direction. My son needs to understand both sides of community and interacting. However, the focus really is on the way to respond positively and the act of forgiveness. Now, I am not one who enjoys the “forgiveness” label. However, when humanity acts through the mind and not from a loving space of God, sometimes the consequences are challenging. In getting back to my internal conversation, the following is the response I heard to my questions, “What action can my son take when he is confused or hurt? Why would someone choose to be hurtful?”

Forgiveness.

We forgive them, for they know not what they do.

In the quiet solitude, when they choose separation, the illusion of darkness overtakes the soul. Day after day, as the mind takes control of life’s experience, the soul cannot be heard. When the soul is lost in a sea of unrelenting foreboding, it succumbs to the mind.

My follow up questions was, “Where is the positive side when someone chooses hurtful or confusing actions and we choose forgiveness?”

Forgiveness allows light to emerge. When our judgments stop and our acceptance of what has happened is transmuted beyond our understanding, we create a God space. For each soul is a space of God within each person. It is when the person chooses to create a separation, that the darkness silently comes calling. Through forgiveness, we acknowledge the God Light within that person through reminding their soul of its own divinity. Our souls are freed as we allow God back within our heart and come to a place of peace and understanding not known before.


As we move into meditation we breathe deeply into the center of our being. We acknowledge our choices we made this day. We understand that each soul is here to choose and each mind has the ability to create its own illusion. Through the love of God we clear the illusion of separateness. We choose to move forward in light and love, to be a presence for another fellow traveler along our path. We are grateful for each day we choose to participate in Life. For Life is here to be live. Life is….Love is…. God is.

And So It Is.