Saturday, July 31, 2010

Everyday Knowing Reminder - Sunday Message August 1, 2010

Choice - A Gift

This month as we move forward with hope and renewal, we begin a discussion on one of my favorite topics: Choice.

As the summer continues on its path, my son and I noticed trees around the area beginning to change colors in preparation for fall. For over a week, we kept looking at the trees not believing our eyes. We talk about how we thought that it is too early for the leaves to begin changing colors. We kept looking trying to find out if it was just one kind of tree or if multiple trees were changing. We finally received our answer yesterday. While cleaning out some weeds, we noticed that the leaves on the weed were turning red. Upon further inspection, we found various levels of color change on different trees, shrubs, and weeds around the yard.

After a week of field research in leaf color change, I find it interesting that because we believed that it was too early for the trees to begin changing color, that it took a week to confirm this fact. I also begin to consider that while my son and I had the ability to choose what we perceived was happening, the trees were not able to choose. The trees were responding to their environment. Whether the color was created by lack of sunlight, last years summer storms, the early October snow or some other reason maybe an arborist could explain, the realization was that the trees respond to external influences.

While humanity also responds to external influence, we have also received a gift. The gift is choice. Just as my son and I could choose not to believe the trees were changing, after a week we were able to change our perceptions and choose to understand that the tree were getting ready for the fall. Here again, I look upon my life. Just as I was in disbelief that the trees were changing, what am I choosing to ignore in my own life? What can I choose to see differently? What is waiting for me to choose a new way of perceiving?

As we all enjoy the gift of choice this week, let us be open to discovering our patterns of perceptions. As we open our internal gift of choice, let us see what we can choose differently. What happens when we choose to look, see, act or do something in a new manner? What will happen within our everyday experience? How will our lives converge with our spiritual practice? Please email or write me with your experiences during this week. I look forward to reading the many rewards of allowing our gift of choice to flourish.

Sunday, July 25, 2010

Everyday Knowing Reminder - Sunday Message July 25, 2010

Celebrate Understanding


This month, after taking two weeks off to experience my mom’s transition and assist my dad as he needed, I return this week to celebrate a deeper understanding of Divine Truth. As you know, Everyday Life Paths is about the Convergence of Life and Spiritual Practice. When I remain open to Life no matter how it manifests, I give myself the opportunity to grow through God’s plan.

My mom died from small cell lung cancer which had also migrated to her liver. I watched and assisted as she progressed on this path. She did not complain. She made the mention that she quit smoking almost six years to the date of her diagnosis. It was her understanding that your chance of getting lung cancer significantly dropped when you had quit smoking for six years or more. The irony was not lost on her. She did not speak of the “what ifs,” yet they were in the back of her mind.

Her thoughts lead me to my own. Is there a place in my life that I need to move forward? Is there a decision that God is leading me to make that I need to listen? I AM willing to spend more time in the silence. I AM aware of God’s plan and am open. I release any fears and doubts of my abilities and allow Life to flow through me. I AM here.

Both mom and dad thought they would live until their 80’s and were looking forward to it. From the outside, my siblings and I judged their lives as boring and over. From their perspective, they were content. Their perception was that life was fine just as it was.

So again, how can I be content right where I AM? Can I know that God’s plan is working in my life? Do I know that everything is exactly as needs to be? Yes, I can. By being in the silence all my questions are put to rest. If I AM uncomfortable does that mean I need to listen to the depth of my soul and make different choices? Only the silence within can lead me to answers.

After she died, everyone had the answers for my dad. While neighbors and friends meant well, only my dad could understand what grieving would look like for him. Even my siblings knew dad would not be able to make it without mom. I did not feel that. I thought my dad would be sad and then recover. Although not religious, he has always told me that the body was a casing for the soul. He said that when a person died, the soul moved on and left the empty shell behind.

He is from Iowa and there is an amazing spirit within. When something happens to an Iowa farmer, what I have witnessed is that they grieve, yet know they must move on. For example, if you have ever seen an Iowa farmer discuss loosing a harvest, they experience the loss, yet know that the community will work together and rebuild for next year. My father has that spirit. While he misses my mom and allows himself to feel the pain of life without her, he knows he must move forward as Life continues.

What I do find interesting is that those who thought my dad was going to have a hard time after my mom died are the one’s who are struggling. Those who told me that “it” (meaning my mom’s death) would hit me are the one’s who are still struggling with their own loss. I found that dad and I have become the space to allow other’s grief to be expressed. Instead of them comforting us in the loss of my mom, we became a space of comfort for them. I think the difference is that dad and I were involved with mom until the end. We understood what was coming and what she wanted. We worked together to honor her requests. Those who are just becoming aware need time to process the loss of my mom and their own personal loss.

While my dad and I may grieve differently, there is hope for the future and of Life still to be lived. I may not understand the Love between my parents, yet I have an understanding of God’s truth, as I perceive it. My family thought dad would pass and mom would take care of everything. She always did. In God’s plan, dad is holding his own and I AM able to support him as needed. As we are told: “We are never given more than we can handle.” Life experiences gave me everything I needed to cope with this situation and my connection to the God within helped me understand. I have found an understanding of spirituality that was unknown before.

Can we transmute a loss experience into a God experience? Instead of dwelling on my loss, can I be a Presence of God’s love? As I realize that Life does not have to be painful, but God filled, my understanding of the Divine truth within expands. As I have always said, it is not what happens, but how I respond to what happens that creates my experience and thus my life. When I converge my Life with my Spiritual practice, I choose to create my life. For this opportunity I AM grateful.

Join me next month as we move forward with hope and renewal to discuss one of my favorite topics: Choice! Peace to you and yours this day.

Friday, July 16, 2010

Update

My mom made her transition on July 11, 2010. I will return to blogging soon. I AM taking time to be thankful for God's Presence within, through, and in my Life. Peace to you this day. In the meantime, please enjoy our meditation: http://www.everydaylifepaths.com/flash%20meditation/meditation.html

Saturday, July 3, 2010

Everyday Knowing Reminder - Sunday Message July 4, 2010

Celebration

July 4th is the perfect day to begin our new topic of the month: Celebration.

Celebrations abound on this day. There are parades, cookouts, gatherings, contests, carnivals, picnics, and of course fireworks. We love the ability to celebrate, especially when we have the approval of celebrating as a community. Neighbors are more forgiving regarding noise late at night. We have an excuse to have seconds at the picnic table and there is an overall happiness in the air. We smile more at one another and even greet a stranger or two.

As we enjoy this day of celebrating America’s independence, let us turn inward to see what else is waiting to be celebrated. While we jump at the chance to party and enjoy the festivities of a holiday, we may not be so ready to celebrate the Life we experience.

At the beginning of this summer my dog transitioned and my mom was diagnosed with a terminal illness. She is choosing to transition. For months, I was in a fog. I was not sure how to proceed within the joy of my life. As time allowed the fog to clear and I allowed the Presence of God to fill my heart I found a new space emerging. I found that through loss comes renewal. I AM alive and well even when events around me appear to be distressing. My thoughts are what are distressing. My mom seems at peace with her situation and decision. It is my thoughts about her life that saddened me, not the situation. In her ability to release and let go, she has provided many gifts. The best gift is that going through this process with her; I realize I AM able to handle it. I AM able to create a larger space within. I AM able to honor her Divinity. I AM able to co-create with God the next steps of my own spiritual growth.

I have now begun to open the door for another dog to love. A few months ago when I said that I would not get another dog, a friend asked me “how can you deny yourself that kind of unconditional love?” After spending time in prayer I realized she was right! As I open myself to new possibilities, I celebrate my renewal. A new breed is manifesting itself within my awareness. A new path is being created. A spark has returned to my eyes.

This 4th of July, I will celebrate the independence of my own thoughts. I will celebrate Life no matter how it is manifesting. As I embrace the unity in all life, I release my need for things to remain the same. I allow my inner light to shine. May you also celebrate the freedom we have to think, act and be just “as we are.” Take time this weekend to celebrate not just the freedom of America, but your own freedom. May your own freedom lead you to honor the Divine Spirit within. May each day be a celebration of your Life as you grow within the spirit of “who you really are.” Know that the I AM within me is the I AM within you. Celebrate and Live Life!

Happy 4th of July!